Jyoti Jamlingappnavar

Many say, "It is easy to advise others, but difficult to follow by oneself." It is common these days that if something happens we are prepared to motivate the other person. There were times when sometimes I would find some of the close ones in trouble, which would automatically lead my inner soul to advise them. But in the end, all I could hear was, "It is easy to advise others, but difficult to follow by oneself."  Sometimes I would wonder if I was making a mistake by advising someone. It is not always about advising, sometimes it's an experience of a person, who had faced a similar situation and came out of it. Knowing the circumstances behind the situation, he/she always tries to save the person. Once, in between the conversation, I questioned my brother, " There are many motivational books and videos, but still why do we never fail to fall into problems?"  He replied, "No matter how many times you try to save people from falling, they won...

How will you praise someone? By their qualities, hobbies, looks or by their personality... How will you make them  feel that they are great? Here it goes, the comparison. "You are better than this person." If you want to climb one step up, will you pull the other person down? No, one will either wait until the person climbs up or one will go besides the other person, without hurting them.  Sometimes, my closed ones say, "Your glow is better than her. I know she is fair, but being dark, you carry great smile, which she doesn't." To praise me, they will put someone down, which distracts me mentally a lot. We heard a lot not to compare ourselves to others. But, what if we start comparing the person to another person? Do you think it is a justice?  We feel good, when someone says that we are better than this person, but at the same time we don't realise that we are unconsciously putting someone down. We all say that everyone is better at their place. Then why do...