Fake Talks or Appreciation Impact Us?

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You may have heard that always speak the truth, no matter what. Does it really work? I have heard in many movies, "a lie isn't a lie, if it does good to someone." But what about the appreciation? You may have observed that if you have tried something for the first time, either it turns too good or too bad. We still want feedback from loved ones and it's good to get feedback. Okay, let me share an incident, which made me write this.

A year ago I had recorded few videos, as it was my first time, I just wanted feedback. Most of my writer friends told me that my voice was good, whereas the other side my bestfriend started mocking at me, he just couldn't stop telling faults about me. I was damn angry, I know I was wrong, he just showed me the reality, but still, there is a way of telling faults of someone. I stopped making audios for poetry. A year later, I tried again, fortunately it turned out to be so good that I liked, but I got same feedback from my bestfriend. It dropped down my smile. Damn! I am really bad at my voice. After few days, I made a new friend, I accidentally made a video in an excitement to show him the mind blowing view of early morning. After few minutes he told me, "Listen, I forgot to tell you that you really have a good voice, you should try for singing, apart from writing." Believe me, I was on the cloud nine, giving my voice over to my friend's writing. I thanked him one day, he said that it was a fake appreciation. I was broken, it felt as if my bestfriend was right. There were no more feelings in my voice, damn! What's happening? I observed one thing, just because someone said that my voice was good, I created it so well,  and when someone said that it was not good, that excitement and feelings had died. I wonder how this fake appreciation works, it can take me from top of the mountains to the depth of the ocean. There are few writers who appreciate, instead of showing faults, because one day we will learn by our mistakes.

I would like to share another incident, a friend of mine was failing in an interview again and again, I myself was not sure what will happen futher, I told her," You will get a job, keep trying. You fall to rise stronger. No matter what happens, never give up". I thought I made a mistake by giving her a hope about which I don't know. Damn! What if she gives up? What if she doesn't get a job? I always prayed in my heart to not let her fall. After several days, I got a message from her saying that she got a job. I was so so happy... not because I proved myself right, but finally she won her own trust. That day, I do believe in rising hope of others. At the same time, preparing them to face problems.  We never know what might happen next.

In life many have given me a fake appreciation, a person who wanted make me love him, told me that I am very beautiful, gorgeous, this that... and when I rejected him, the same person turned out to be a hater, speaking truth, demeaning my face and body. There are still some people, who turned their true colours just because I couldn't full fill their desires. What I did, was took it in a different way. I deleted what bad things people told about me, and chose whatever they spoke good about me. Maybe, it is a fake appreciation or a talk, I don't know, but believing in it started changing my life. I saw the way a stranger or a friend wanted me to see about his feelings. I just changed something over here, instead of loving him, I started falling in love with myself.

Today, when few people speak shit about my dark colour, I don't mind, because I do know my strengths and weakness. If I can be carried away with fake people, I can be carried away with fake talks too.

It is not necessary that all fake talks will turn you good. Remember, a person needs a appreciation in the world of an insult. It is an amazing feeling when I appreciate the ones  who once or are still insulting me. Somewhere they are facing insults too. One should know how to touch a broken mirror and how longer one can hold it without bleeding.

If one wants to correct something or someone, do correct it, but in a different way, showing advantages and limitations. I felt it again, why I can't I use this fake appreciation or talk to upgrade myself in a good way? We all know, if we want something from someone, we will melt them like butter, appreciating them and making them feel like god. Remember, same fake appreciation breaks someone's trust too, when they will know truth about it.

You can be both person, fake appreciator or a person who is taking it. Choice is yours! Life is yours!

Written by - Jyoti Jamlingappnavar

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