Difference Between Loneliness And Enjoying Self-Company

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People usually say, "We are not lonely, it is just that we love to be alone or we enjoy our own company". How far it is true? Once on a phone call, I started telling my friend that I love to be lonely. She said that loneliness isn't the term for that, you might be enjoying your own company. Never say that. 



What is the difference between loneliness and enjoying one's own company? 

Loneliness is an unpleasant and distressing experience. Loneliness is often seen as a negative state of feeling. It is a feeling, that a person can feel even after being surrounded by a crowd. If you remember, there might be moments when you had or have been still searching for a reason to involve yourself in some activity, so that you don't get that unpleasant or uneasy feeling within you. That is what loneliness feels like. 


Even, there will be a phase of time, when you have enjoyed or are enjoying everything, having a great feeling despite being alone. 


It was just when I was 18 years old that I tried my best to involve myself with people. Tried to make friends, even after knowing that I was in a circle of toxic people. I couldn't understand why I was so eager to get myself involved in some or other thing, just because I got an unpleasant feeling. I termed that feeling as 'boring'. 




After 2 years, in 2020, I started taking part in the challenges of different writing communities. As my interest was increasing in hobbies, my online friend circle was decreasing. I started feeling like a happy-go-lucky, and I no more had that unpleasant feeling. I enjoyed being alone and involved myself in a lot of activities which increased my happiness level. I no more felt that I need a big circle of people or was bored. 



How to enjoy your own company or decrease loneliness, whenever you feel lonely? 

- Involve yourself in your hobbies, like dancing, singing, reading, writing, playing, and creativity. 

- Focus on each activity that you are doing. While eating observe the colour of the food, and see how it smells or tastes. While walking observes your surrounding. Try to focus on the present. 

- Find out what makes you happy and do it. Just be careful that it shouldn't hurt someone else or that you are not involved in toxic activities. 

-  If possible have some pets or try to grow some plants, getting in touch with nature, decreases loneliness.



There are several definitions of loneliness. Did you ever felt lonely and given it a different term? 


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