How The Chain of Mistrust Continues?

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There was a time when we all would live in a joint family. There was a time where we all would play and study in unity. There was a time where our country was one until Britishers divided. Did you ever thought why and how they did it easily? What is the reason behind their plans? How easily they made us fools and it is still continuing even after they are not there with us. Country has been shattered into small states and now small states want a separation too. Isn't it strange, we talk about unity and peace until we are hurt by someone.

Relationships, families and friends are all under influence of rumours. We have changed the meaning of three monkeys. Instead of not hearing bad things, we avoid hearing someone's problems. Instead of not seeing bad things, we are closing our eyes Infront of crime. Instead of not talking about bad things, we avoid speaking to justice. Whenever I talk about true love. Most of them say, it doesn't exist in today's world. Do you think it exist? Most of them will say no, but I say yes. Yes, true love does exist. Love your mother and see, she will never hurt you. Love nature and see, it will take you to another world. What about relationship? So called trendy relationships are all broken by soul and heart. Why? Because once we are broken, we never trust others. Trust is important thing. Is it necessary that always opposite person should trust us? Why can't we start by ourselves? Remember, if you invest something, you will get it back. What we do is we want everything perfect and quick. That is why we land up being disappointed. 

So how the chain of mistrust continues? Example- A boy loves me and suddenly leaves me. I will think that he is not good to me or in other words I might say that he was not loyal. Okay , keeping aside his loyalty, what I would do next? I will start thinking that everything is temporary and nothing is permanent. That is true nothing is permanent but does that mean I should repeat the same thing what that boy has done to me? Most of us do that. This applies to everyone irrespective of gender. We move on enjoying our lives and suddenly without our realisation someone is loyal and really falls in love with us. But we don't trust them and move on without any realisation hurting someone. That someone will think the world is cruel as we do think and this chain continues like a virus. It takes away everything. We are so selfish that we think if someone has hit us with stones, we will take revenge by hitting someone else. Why? Just because we are destroyed by someone else? No because we all want to pull others down along with us. Instead of pulling down, if we support each other than no outer person can destroy this. We always think about cruel world, thinking no one is good in this world, so that includes us too. No one is perfect, but we can make be a part of someone's perfection.

Imagine your family is united, supporting each other. The society cannot defeat it. On the other side, living under same roof you all don't trust each other, some outer person will turn it into pieces of mistrust. Today, we are so lost in proving ourselves as superior that we don't even care about our own loved ones. It maybe in anything: caste, class, gender, religion, degree, ranks, jobs, food and what not. We remember someone whenever we need help otherwise we don't even care. Sometimes be someone's favourite person without any profit. Today, staying under one roof we are living in different world. Some are living under different places yet they stay connected. Trust can built bondings or mistrust can destroy it.

Jyoti Jamlingappnavar

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