Jyoti Jamlingappnavar

Many say, "It is easy to advise others, but difficult to follow by oneself." It is common these days that if something happens we are prepared to motivate the other person. There were times when sometimes I would find some of the close ones in trouble, which would automatically lead my inner soul to advise them. But in the end, all I could hear was, "It is easy to advise others, but difficult to follow by oneself."  Sometimes I would wonder if I was making a mistake by advising someone. It is not always about advising, sometimes it's an experience of a person, who had faced a similar situation and came out of it. Knowing the circumstances behind the situation, he/she always tries to save the person. Once, in between the conversation, I questioned my brother, " There are many motivational books and videos, but still why do we never fail to fall into problems?"  He replied, "No matter how many times you try to save people from falling, they won...

How will you praise someone? By their qualities, hobbies, looks or by their personality... How will you make them  feel that they are great? Here it goes, the comparison. "You are better than this person." If you want to climb one step up, will you pull the other person down? No, one will either wait until the person climbs up or one will go besides the other person, without hurting them.  Sometimes, my closed ones say, "Your glow is better than her. I know she is fair, but being dark, you carry great smile, which she doesn't." To praise me, they will put someone down, which distracts me mentally a lot. We heard a lot not to compare ourselves to others. But, what if we start comparing the person to another person? Do you think it is a justice?  We feel good, when someone says that we are better than this person, but at the same time we don't realise that we are unconsciously putting someone down. We all say that everyone is better at their place. Then why do...

Death! One of the biggest fear in our life. Being a child, I was so scared of dead bodies. I didn't even want to watch the sight of it. I grew up with this fear, avoiding funerals of closed ones. I was just 13 years old, it was around the year 2012, when I heard that my maternal grandmother passed away. I loved her so much, and inspite of spending my whole childhood at her house, I denied to attend her funeral. Still, my father took me to her funeral, thinking what society will think about me. After attending her funeral, I couldn't sleep for 3 days. I would get nightmares at night. Once, my father told me, "For how many years you will run away from this deaths/ funerals? One day there will be a situation, where you will have to face it. No matter what happens, you won't be able to escape this situation."  I thought about it for a while, and later ignored it.  It was starting week of July, where I started finding things out of the box. And, one night I got some po...

  How does the bond last? What do you think it is all about sacrifices and love? No, that is a part of it, but how can we replace a mistake? Oh, come on! Mistakes are made by each one of us. No matter how hard we try. So think how will you balance your bond? Think,think, think. Ok, I'll tell you. If we make a mistake, we will either show our ego and say, "It was not my fault". Or we will curse ourself saying,"It all happened because of me". We just do it to save our friendships and relationships. What can we do? Instead of proving right and wrong, why don't we talk to the person  about the problems? Why don't we equalise it. Like mothers do for their children. They hit them when they are wrong, but later they equalise them with a hug or by loving them or by treating them with something. That doesn't mean she is teaching something wrong. Remember no one is bad or good. We all have learnt something from the other person. There must be something where ...

You may have heard that always speak the truth, no matter what. Does it really work? I have heard in many movies, "a lie isn't a lie, if it does good to someone." But what about the appreciation? You may have observed that if you have tried something for the first time, either it turns too good or too bad. We still want feedback from loved ones and it's good to get feedback. Okay, let me share an incident, which made me write this. A year ago I had recorded few videos, as it was my first time, I just wanted feedback. Most of my writer friends told me that my voice was good, whereas the other side my bestfriend started mocking at me, he just couldn't stop telling faults about me. I was damn angry, I know I was wrong, he just showed me the reality, but still, there is a way of telling faults of someone. I stopped making audios for poetry. A year later, I tried again, fortunately it turned out to be so good that I liked, but I got same feedback from my bestfriend. I...

There was a time when we all would live in a joint family. There was a time where we all would play and study in unity. There was a time where our country was one until Britishers divided. Did you ever thought why and how they did it easily? What is the reason behind their plans? How easily they made us fools and it is still continuing even after they are not there with us. Country has been shattered into small states and now small states want a separation too. Isn't it strange, we talk about unity and peace until we are hurt by someone. Relationships, families and friends are all under influence of rumours. We have changed the meaning of three monkeys. Instead of not hearing bad things, we avoid hearing someone's problems. Instead of not seeing bad things, we are closing our eyes Infront of crime. Instead of not talking about bad things, we avoid speaking to justice. Whenever I talk about true love. Most of them say, it doesn't exist in today's world. Do you thin...